Holiday is not necessarily a happy or happy time for many people.There may be pressure to deal with family emotions and holiday preparations --Shopping, cleaning, decorating, packing, baking, attending holiday parties-you get it.Because of all the extra duties, our stress levels have increased and our coping skills have quickly disappeared.Identifying specific triggers will help you solve the problem of making your holiday more enjoyable.The point is that you control yourself, not the holiday.How many of us feel that these holiday traditions are something we "have to do "?The first step in getting control is to ask yourself what you really need to do and what you can do to let go.If time permits, make a list and separate the necessary things from what you "want to do.Take another step and think about the pros and cons of each project and start to cross them out of the list.Planning ahead will greatly help reduce the stress of the holidays.If you always ask the postman to make a plate of cookies in advance, maybe around Thanksgiving.When it comes to this, you also want to take a moment to enjoy this special holiday.Of course, Thanksgiving is the time of the year when we should thank those we appreciate and love, and many other things in our lives that we appreciate.Reflecting on these blessings makes us feel more peaceful and happy.After you make a clear assessment of your holiday activities, commit to making changes.If you are always the owner of the party and it is one of your pressures, then discuss other possibilities with your family.To reduce baking time, plan to exchange cookies with family and friends.Another component of planning ahead is to accept your restrictions, consider more boundaries for yourself, and practice the art of saying "no"For example, will it upset you to do the same old tradition?Then make different plans.Is there a Member in the family that makes the party unbearable?Plan your reaction to negative reviews in advance and practice your response.When you think your mother-in-law's advice is too much, thank you for your concern.Maybe just-Planning to change your interpretation of positive things will help you overcome negative emotions.Try to guide the conversation in a more relaxed direction with humor.Plan difficult conversations in advance by considering which topics can (and cannot) be discussed.Families who are separated or divorced can make things more complicated.Try to alternate a few years on Thanksgiving and Christmas or meet a family.Some families decided not to go there at all and chose to stay at home to create their own traditions.Another suggestion is to have a party before or after the holiday.Is the budget tight?Gift giving is about giving from the bounty we have and you can't give it if you don't.The gift you make yourself is a gift from the heart and a help to your budget.Share some of your holiday baked goods.It is recommended to exchange gifts for everyone instead of buying.Create a certificate for what you know the recipient will like, like car wash and wax, you know the day trip they will like, or a card that tells the person how special they are to you.No department stores are needed for Christmas.Talk to your kids before the peak season, reassure them that family is the most important and explain why Christmas is a little different this year.Plan activities that you know they will like.More meaningful activities may change the way you spend Christmas.Remember stop, the first letter of hunger, anger, loneliness, fatigue, acronym, if you feel that there is any stop, take the time to think about what creates this feeling for yourself.Changing expectations and behavior can make a big difference.Spread a little joy during this holiday by showing a more relaxed and happy you.
