Yan Hao from Beijing.As many of you know, my passion is to understand all kinds of communication, but I have to admit that learning language is not my strength!Even after two years of college-level Spanish, all I remember was "Donde esta el bano favor ?"?"I'm glad to know, of course, but the use is limited, especially in Beijing.I have only learned two words so far: zakhao and xi.In China, I have to use the common language of smile (and translation occasionally ).When it comes to smiling, I like the picture above.A few days ago, I bought it at a famous "Beijing roast duck" restaurant.Look at those eyes and the sweet messages they send.You can see her smile (though her hands cover her mouth ).She likes my red hair and green eyes.The little girl has never seen green eyes and she calls them "Cats"According to my Chinese friend.Other people have an interesting view of us, but I think this is another post.General message of smile.Smile is a very useful and common thing!This is known in every city I 've landed in.However, it can't just be a smileYou don't want to walk around as crazy as the Joker in The Batman celebrity .......At least, I hope you don't do that.It is fascinating to observe the wide and universal nature of the smile.Renowned facial expression Research and author Dr. Paul Ekman describes a variety of smiles from a real smile to a deceptive smile.The scope of the smile is tight-Silent embarrassment to a child's innocent smile.People smile for all kinds of reasons.A smile can send you a message that makes someone like it or refute you.It can express sympathy, happiness, sadness and even embarrassment.There are real smiles and false smiles and all kinds of Smilesbetween.Smile seems to be born.Author Daniel McNeil points out in his book face: natural history, "the first smile appears two to twelve hours after birth, and there seems to be no content."As a mother of two children, I assure you that even if my newborn son is not satisfied with their smile, their smile must have emotional satisfaction for me.No matter what their foundation is, smile will have a strong impact on us.Adjust your smile for maximum impact.Many times, our smile is easy and natural.We don't always think about smiling, it just happens, but the gender, culture and groups have different views on smiling and eye contact.Let's review the basic smile.There are two parts to smile.First of all, the contraction of the facial muscles will raise your corners of the mouth, and sometimes open your mouth or separate your lips to reveal your teeth.In a business environment, adjusting the size of your opening needs to be considered.Usually the higher your position, the less teeth you show when you smile, unless, of course, you are a politician.Again, we all know how insincere a politician's smile is.The second is eye contact.Eye contact and eye response to emotional stimuli are different.The reaction of your eyes to emotions or outside stimuliLike watching a sad movie.Cannot be easily manipulated;But eye contact is OK.Eye contact requires little effort to shift your eyes or lock your eyes.Before making eye contact, know what kind of response you want from another person to determine the length of time you have for direct eye contact.If you are talking to someone with a superior location, please mirror (or use slightly less) the amount and intensity of their eye contact.If you notice someone's breathing accelerating, consider avoiding your eyes for the time being.Breaking direct eye contact can provide some "breathing space" for both sides ".Studies have shown that long direct eye contact can actually increase the heart of another person.The speed and speed of breathing.Acceleration of breathing and changes in the heart in extreme casesThe rate can make a person over-ventilated and have a feeling of "drifting", which is no different from the feeling of falling in love.Really, it's not a coincidence, because one of the behaviors of early love is direct and long eye contact.It is no wonder that when we are stared at, we feel uncomfortable and even threatened.So what is the "best" business smile?If you want to be considered credible, sincere and friendly, consider smiling at a slower pace first.If you walk into a room with a frozen brilliant smile on your face as if anyone and everyone were the intended recipient, your smile would not be considered credible, sincere or friendly.A frozen smile is a sign of pain and/or low selfesteem.Of course, it's not the message you want to send.If you have a tendency to strengthen yourself with a plastering smile before you enter the room, do a few long deep breaths and blow --Call out through your mouth.This will relax you and your facial muscles.Enter the room and continue to remind yourself to breathe fully-no quick or shallow breathing is allowed.Breathing comfortably is the key to a credible, sincere and friendly look from a distance.Pause, breathe, and then share a warm, responsive smile and direct eye contact.A slight delay tells the recipient that your smile is sincere, that you will be considered sincere and that the smile is personalized.The speed of smiling shows your credibility and sincerity.The slower the smile, the more personality and sincerity it appears.Its size and "teeth --Show your accessibility and friendly smile.However, it is important to know that the number of teeth depends on the culture and gender of the other person.When in doubt, reflect the size of the smile to the other party.Remember that people in higher positions usually have less teeth.Explicit smiles and direct, long eye contact are more common in Western culture, and are seen as a sign of respect when talking to people in a dominant position.However, in the Eastern culture, it may be disrespectful to look directly at the superior.While this is changing as the world shrinks, when meeting people from other countries and cultures, please pay attention to understanding the different norms about big smiles and eye contact.In general, I find that in Western and Eastern cultures, "on the street," a real smile conveys a sincere way of understanding, even if you only know two words."Well," said the Cheshire cat.This time, it [cat] disappears slowly, starting at the end of the tail, ending with a smile, which still exists at some point after the rest of it disappears.Sharonp.s.* Ni Hao (pronounced "how is the knee" to say hello) and xière (pronounced "sheh" to say thank you ).
