If experience is the greatest teacher, it seems to be 20/20 afterwards, what can be said by observation?Observation is defined as: 1 a: an act or instance of compliance with a habit, rule, or law B: compliance with 2 a: the act of identifying and recording a fact or event, it usually involves measuring with instrument B: a record or description so obtained 3: judgment or inference of what you observe.No matter which definition one can choose, using the power of observation is an option.What troubles do we have in this decision-making process?In fact, we often focus so much on how we are perceived that we do not --or can\'t -Observing others attentively will provide us with information and insights that are valuable to one's character, values and motives.By being self-We missed the blatant and random clues to reveal the truth.Self-centered will also mask the feeling of intuition ("intuition"), which will be heard in other ways, but will unfortunately be ignored.Only by overcoming the impulse to be understood and accepted can we fully participate in the process of understanding and acceptance.People tell us what they want us to know, not what we need to know.The power of observation is clear and clear through the smoke curtain.Two things are needed to activate your observation.You must shut up first.up.That's right. don't talk.Whether it's for yourself (in your mind) or for others.When you close your mouth, your ears and eyes will magically open.The second step is to collect both verbal and non-verbalOral information not considered.It is easier said than done, but it can be mastered by practice.Writer Malcolm Gladwell mentioned the process in his book The blink of an eyeslicing.\"Thin-Slices need to be concluded using limited information.By not thinking (too much), he said, assessing the situation and determining how we feel about someone or something, not based on a lot of new information, but on the experience we have accumulated, it's a good thing.Both \"thin-Slicing "and utilizing the power of observation, focusing only on the most important information is a challenge.Gladwell was quoted in an interview as saying: "We live in a world where the quality of the hypothetical decision is directly related to the time and effort to make the decision, he wrote.What are we going to tell our children?Hurry is a waste.Look before you jump.Stop and think.Don't judge a book by its cover.\ "Observation does not allow you to judge a book according to its cover;However, it does give you a very strong indication of what the book is about.By observing people and their surroundings, you will be able to get key information about who they are, what they think, what they value, and what they really feel, you don't need to ask a question.If you pay attention to clues and clues.How's your boss wearing?Meticulously?Or slovenly?Research has shown that the dress code of business owners is directly related to the way they manage the company.A well-dressed boss is more likely to be organized and pay more attention to the details of running the business.A laid-back boss is more likely to ignore details and lack vision for the company's future.Will your new Huan sit in his chair when you speak?Or is he leaning forward?Leaning forward means that he is involved in the conversation;Leaning back means he is withdrawn and selfless.Is your boyfriend listening to you with his arms closed?He sent out a clue that he did not understand or accept what you said.When a person feels attacked and feels the need to take a defensive stance, the cross arm also conveys protection.These are just some non-Verbal clues that give us honest information in our interactions with others, but the power of observation is not limited to trueTime to get along with people.When the person you observe does not know or is not even present, this happens to most, perhaps the best.When you are away, someone will know what you are by visiting your house?What does your office reveal about your personality and work habits?What do you think of your life inside your car?An interesting article entitled room with tips: Personality judgment based on office and bedroomGosling and Sei Ko of the University of Texas at Austin study how people spend a lot of waking time in their personal life and working environment.They found that from the choice of color, pattern and pattern, everything not only shows the taste and aesthetics of the individual, but also shows the selfDirect statement of identity aimed at strengthening selfDeliberately convey attitudes and values to others.These statements may be sincere and intended to convey true information about the real situation of the individual, but may also be strategic or even deceptive statements intended to portray the individual to some extent.Their research shows that personal environments such as offices and bedrooms are good containers for this residue of internal behavior (Webb, Campbell, Schwartz and Sechrest, 1966) where individuals spend a lot of time, certain behaviors are repeated.The term "Behavioral Residue" refers to the physical traces of activities carried out in a person's environment.While most of the clues reflect past behavior, there are also some clues to the expected behavior;For example, a bottle of unopened wine and a set of bean bag chairs arranged in circles on the floor may indicate the social occupants planning to entertain guests.In other words, your office space conveys a lot of information about you, and the same is true of the conditions you keep inside your car --And the items you put inside.These are the indicators of who you are, what you have done (what you have done or are going to do), and how you live.Through continuous practice, you will soon understand that this is not what people say, but their non-Oral information communicates with you through the power of observation, which is really important.
